“My child hates the car!”

You’re not alone - plenty of babies (and parents!) dread car journeys. Whether it’s screaming at every red light or crying before you’ve even set off, it can be stressful and upsetting.

The good news? Most children grow out of it, and there are lots of things you can do to make car journeys calmer and more comfortable in the meantime.

1. Check the Basics: Fit and Installation

Before assuming your baby just “doesn’t like” the car, it’s worth ruling out any physical discomfort first. A poorly fitted or incorrectly adjusted seat can make even short trips unbearable.

• Make sure the harness is snug with the straps level with or just below the shoulders for rear-facing.

• The headrest should be positioned correctly, and any infant inserts should still be suitable for your baby’s size.

• Ask a trained car seat specialist to check that your seat is securely and correctly installed in your car - even tiny movement can affect comfort and safety.

If your car allows it and you can get a solid install, you may also consider fitting your rear-facing seat in the front passenger seat with the airbag deactivated. Always check your vehicle manual first to confirm this is permitted. Having you in view can really help babies who find separation difficult.

2. Soothe the Senses

Long drives can be overwhelming for little ones. Try creating a more soothing environment:

• Play gentle music or white noise - “The Happy Song” by Imogen Heap was specifically designed to calm babies and is backed by research from Goldsmiths University.

• Keep the temperature comfortable and ensure good airflow.

• Offer a soft toy or muslin that smells familiar to help them feel secure (never clip or tie anything to the seat).

• Use a sunshade to reduce glare if they’re squinting or fussy from bright light.

Some parents also find that playing soft background noise (like rain or car hum sounds) through a phone or white-noise app can help babies stay settled between naps.

3. Plan Around Their Routine

If your child often cries during car journeys, try adjusting your travel times. Some babies prefer motion when they’re drowsy; others cry more when overtired. Experiment with nap and feed timings to find what works best.

Keep journeys short while they’re adjusting - even a quick drive to a familiar place can help them gradually learn that car time doesn’t always mean distress.

4. Consider Physical Comfort

Babies’ bodies change rapidly, and tension from growth or being curled up in the same position for too long can make them uncomfortable in the car. A gentle check-up with a paediatric osteopath or physiotherapist can sometimes help if discomfort persists.

5. Be Patient (and Kind to Yourself!)

Sometimes, babies just cry. It doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong - and it doesn’t mean the car seat is unsafe or unsuitable. For most families, the crying phase passes by around 9-12 months as little ones gain independence and better neck and trunk control.

In the meantime, focus on comfort, routine, and reassurance - and remember that every safe journey, no matter how noisy, is a win.

FAQ

Is it safe to put a rear-facing car seat in the front?

Yes - if your vehicle manual permits it and the airbag is fully deactivated. Always check installation stability and vehicle guidance before doing so.

Can I play white noise in the car?

Absolutely. Many babies find rhythmic sounds calming. Keep the volume low and avoid using it for every single trip, so your child doesn’t become dependent on it (for your own sanity!)

Should I change seats if my baby cries a lot?

Not usually. A crying baby isn’t a sign of an unsafe seat - but a fit check by a specialist can rule out discomfort or incorrect positioning. Some children do prefer a more upright toddler-style seat, so providing they can get a safe fit, meet the minimum requirements, and you have the budget, this could be an option for you.